It should come as no surprise that therapists are often confronted with couples in which one, or even both spouses, have had sexual affairs.  There is always a lot of pain involved.  Often, these couples doubt their relationship can be restored.  They worry that trust may never return.  They wonder if they can ever have loving feelings again.  Unfortunately, not all therapists know how to be helpful in these situations.  Some think cheating means the relationship is over.  Some push for quick forgiveness.  Neither of these options is necessary.  Good therapy can help couples address the problems that allowed distance to develop and assist couples to slowly work through the questions that need to be answered to make trust and loving feelings return.  Betrayal is heartbreaking.  But hearts can be mended.